Rudeness can look like answering back, ignoring the teacher, mocking, or refusing to read. Online, some children feel they can behave in ways they never would in a classroom.
In the lesson
- If you’re nearby, step in calmly: “That’s not how we speak to your teacher.”
- Don’t shout in front of the teacher; keep it short.
After the lesson
- Apology: your child apologises to the teacher, by message or at the start of the next lesson.
- Find the cause:
| Cause | Fix |
|---|---|
| Tired after school | Move the lesson time |
| Embarrassed by corrections | Ask the teacher to correct more gently |
| Bored | More variety in the lesson |
| Testing limits | Clear rule and consequence |
| Doesn’t get on with the teacher | Discuss with the academy |
The rule and the consequence
“We speak to our teacher with respect.” If it happens again: a fixed consequence, such as no screen time that evening. Keep it the same every time.
The Islamic manners
Explain that respecting those who teach us is part of Islam. The Prophet ﷺ was the greatest teacher, and the scholars of Islam have always honoured their teachers. For a child: “Your teacher is helping you learn Allah’s words. That deserves respect.”
Tell the teacher
A short message: “I’m sorry about today. We’ve spoken to him and it won’t happen again.” It supports the teacher and shows your child you are on the same side.
Teacher’s tip: praise good behaviour as specifically as you correct bad: “You were so respectful with your teacher today.” Children repeat what gets noticed.
Related: Listens to the teacher, not to me.
