My teenage daughter has stopped wearing her hijab. How should I respond?
Bloomtivo answers
Respond with conversation, not force. Ask why: pressure at school, bullying, doubts, or wanting to fit in. Explain why hijab matters to you and in Islam, without shaming her. Do not pull it on her or threaten her; forced hijab rarely lasts. Keep the relationship close, support her identity, and give her time.
Reviewed by Islam Awny, Bloomtivo teacher · Updated
↓ The full answer
Many Muslim girls in the UK go through periods of wearing and removing the hijab. Forcing it often pushes it further away; understanding brings it closer.
Practical help: styles, colours, modest fashion that feels like her
The conversation
“I noticed you’re not wearing your hijab. Can we talk about it? I’m not angry.”
Listen fully before giving your view.
Share why it matters: obedience to Allah, dignity, identity. Use the verses (Quran 24:31) gently, not as a weapon.
Ask: “What would make wearing it easier for you?”
What to avoid
Shaming her in front of relatives.
Comparing her with cousins.
Threats or physical force. In the UK, this can also become a safeguarding concern.
Keep her close
A daughter who feels respected at home is far more likely to return to hijab by her own choice. Spend time together, praise her character and include her in family worship.
Teacher’s tip: mothers and aunts who wear hijab confidently and happily are the strongest example. Let her see it as dignity, not a rule.
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