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My teenage daughter wants to wear makeup to school and when going out. What should I say?

Bloomtivo answers

Separate three things: the school’s rules (many UK schools limit makeup), Islamic guidance (many scholars advise women not to wear noticeable makeup in front of non-mahram men, while makeup at home and among women is fine), and her feelings (often about confidence and fitting in). Agree clear limits together, allow it at home and with women, and work on the confidence underneath.

Reviewed by Mahmoud Tantawy, Bloomtivo teacher · Updated

The full answer

Wanting to wear makeup is very common at 12 to 16. How you handle it affects both her practice and your relationship.

Three separate questions

QuestionGuidance
School rulesMany UK schools ban or limit makeup; she should follow them
Islamic guidanceAllah tells women not to display their adornment to non-mahram men (Quran 24:31); many scholars apply this to noticeable makeup in public. Ask a trusted scholar for details.
Her feelingsOften about confidence, fitting in, or skin worries

A practical agreement

  • At home and with women: makeup is fine; let her enjoy it.
  • Weddings and women’s events: a chance to dress up.
  • School and public: follow school rules; keep to what your family is comfortable with.
  • Skincare: fine and healthy, especially for acne.

The conversation

“I understand you want to look nice. Let’s talk about where and how, in a way that fits our faith.” Avoid mocking or banning without explanation.

Look underneath

  • Is she being teased about her skin?
  • Is she comparing herself with influencers? See cosmetic procedures.
  • Does she need confidence in other ways: sport, skills, friendships?

Teacher’s tip: mothers who share some “getting ready” time with daughters at home, for family events or Eid, often find the public makeup question becomes much easier to discuss.

Related: Why girls wear hijab.

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