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A parent asks

My teenager doesn’t want to go to the masjid anymore. What can I do?

Bloomtivo answers

Find out why first: boring khutbahs in a language they don’t follow, feeling judged, no one their age, or bigger doubts. Then fix the cause: try a masjid with English khutbahs or a youth programme, go together and do something they enjoy afterwards, and give them a role. For boys past puberty, Jumu’ah is obligatory, so keep that one non-negotiable while you work on the rest.

Reviewed by Islam Ragab, Bloomtivo teacher · Updated

The full answer

Many UK teenagers drift away from the masjid. Usually it’s about how the masjid feels to them, not about faith itself.

Common reasons and fixes

ReasonFix
Khutbah in a language they don’t understandA masjid with English khutbahs
Nobody their ageYouth groups, study circles, sports programmes
Felt judged or told offA more welcoming masjid; talk to the imam
BoringEvents: youth nights, iftars, volunteering
Doubts about faithSee doubts

The non-negotiable

For boys who have reached puberty, Jumu’ah is obligatory. Keep that firm, and make it as positive as possible. See Jumu’ah and school.

Make it theirs

  • A role: helping at events, setting up iftars, teaching younger children.
  • Going with friends.
  • Something fun after: food, sport, a drive.

Girls and the masjid

Many masjids have limited or unwelcoming women’s spaces. Look for masjids with good sisters’ facilities and programmes, and support girls’ attendance.

Don’t force everything

Pushing every prayer at the masjid can backfire. Agree a core (Jumu’ah, Eid, some Ramadan nights) and build from there.

Teacher’s tip: teenagers return to the masjid for people, not buildings. One good mentor or friend there can change everything.

Related: Lonely teenagers.

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