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A parent asks

My child wants a different teacher, or only a female teacher. What should I do?

Bloomtivo answers

Take it seriously and ask why, calmly: is the teacher too fast, too strict, hard to understand, or is it about comfort? If it is a safety concern, contact the academy straight away. Otherwise, a change is reasonable. At Bloomtivo you can choose a male or female teacher, and during the trial we change the teacher free until your child is comfortable.

Reviewed by Ahmed Abdelazeem, Bloomtivo teacher · Updated

The full answer

A child who is not comfortable with their teacher learns less. Listening to their reason helps you decide whether to adjust, or to change.

Step 1: ask the right question

Not “Why don’t you like her?” but “What happens in the lesson that you don’t like?” Then listen.

Step 2: sort the reason

ReasonBest next step
“It’s too hard / too fast”Talk to the teacher about the pace first
“I can’t understand her accent”Ask the teacher to slow down; change if it continues
“He’s too strict”Share it with the teacher; change if your child stays anxious
“I’d feel more comfortable with a woman / a man”A reasonable request; ask for a change
Anything about secrets, private messages or feeling unsafeStop lessons and contact the academy immediately

Step 3: make the change smoothly

  • Tell the new teacher what worked and what did not.
  • Share your child’s current level so they start in the right place.
  • Sit in on the first lesson with the new teacher.

At Bloomtivo

We have both male and female teachers. During the 2 free trial lessons, if your child is not comfortable, we change the teacher and the trial stays free until they are happy. Read our Safeguarding Policy.

Teacher’s tip: do not make your child feel guilty for asking. Children who can say “I’m not comfortable” are safer and learn better.

Related: Is a male teacher okay for my daughter?

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