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A parent asks

My teenage daughter wants to start wearing hijab, but I worry she’ll face discrimination. What should I do?

Bloomtivo answers

Support her choice; a hijab she chooses herself is a strong sign of faith. Prepare rather than discourage: talk through possible comments and confident replies, check the school uniform policy, and know that religion is a protected characteristic under the UK Equality Act 2010. Agree that she will tell you about any problem, and report discrimination to the school or Tell MAMA.

Reviewed by Mahmoud Tantawy, Bloomtivo teacher · Updated

The full answer

Parents sometimes feel torn: proud of their daughter’s decision, but scared for her. Your support at this moment matters a great deal.

Start with support

“I’m proud of you. Let’s make sure you feel ready and confident.” A daughter who feels supported at home copes far better with anything outside.

Prepare together

AreaWhat to do
SchoolCheck the uniform policy; most UK schools allow hijab, often in school colours
PE and swimmingSports hijabs and modest swimwear; talk to the school early
CommentsPractise calm replies: “It’s my choice and my faith.”
FriendsEncourage Muslim friends and girls who wear hijab

Know her rights

Religion or belief is a protected characteristic under the Equality Act 2010. Schools and employers must not discriminate against her for wearing hijab, though schools can set reasonable uniform rules.

If something happens

  • Agree she will tell you about any comment or incident.
  • Report bullying in writing to the school.
  • Report anti-Muslim incidents to Tell MAMA, and to the police if there are threats or violence.

Let it be her journey

Some girls start full-time, some gradually. Let her set the pace, and praise her intention whatever happens.

Teacher’s tip: go hijab shopping together and let her choose styles and colours she loves. Feeling good in it makes her confident wearing it.

Related: Bullied for being Muslim.

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