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A parent asks

My child rushes through their prayer. How do I teach them to slow down?

Bloomtivo answers

Teach calmness (tuma’ninah): every position must be still for a moment before moving on. A simple rule: say each dhikr at least three times, slowly, in ruku’ and sujud, and pause until the body is completely still when standing up from ruku’ and sitting between the two sujud. Pray next to your child to set the pace.

Reviewed by Mahmoud Tantawy, Bloomtivo teacher · Updated

The full answer

Children often race through prayer to get back to play. The Sunnah is clear that calmness is part of a correct prayer.

What the Sunnah says

A man prayed quickly, and the Prophet ﷺ told him three times, “Go back and pray, for you have not prayed.” He then taught him to be at rest in each position: bowing until at rest, rising until standing straight, prostrating until at rest, and sitting until at rest (Sahih al-Bukhari 757).

The slow-prayer checklist

PositionSayPause
Ruku’سُبْحَانَ رَبِّيَ الْعَظِيمِ ×3, slowlyBack flat and still
Standing upرَبَّنَا وَلَكَ الْحَمْدُStand completely straight before going down
Sujudسُبْحَانَ رَبِّيَ الْأَعْلَى ×3, slowlyForehead and nose still on the ground
Between sujudرَبِّ اغْفِرْ لِيSit fully before the second sujud

A 2-week plan

  • Week 1: pray side by side; your child follows your pace.
  • Week 2: your child leads you in one prayer a day, at the slow pace.

Explain the why

“Salah is talking to Allah. Would you talk to someone important and run away halfway through a sentence?”

Teacher’s tip: time one prayer before and after the two weeks. A 2-rak’ah prayer that took 1 minute and now takes 3 is real progress.

Related: How to teach your child to pray.

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