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A parent asks

My child asks if the tooth fairy and Father Christmas are real. What should a Muslim parent say?

Bloomtivo answers

Tell the truth, kindly. Islam takes honesty with children seriously; the Prophet ﷺ warned a mother that promising a child something she didn’t mean to give would be recorded as a lie (Sunan Abi Dawud 4991). Say: “They’re stories some families tell, but they aren’t real.” You can still mark a lost tooth with an honest treat from you, and ask your child not to spoil it for friends.

Reviewed by Mahmoud Tantawy, Bloomtivo teacher · Updated

The full answer

In UK schools, many children believe in the tooth fairy and Father Christmas. Muslim children hear about them and ask questions.

Why honesty matters

A mother called her child, saying “Come, I’ll give you something.” The Prophet ﷺ asked what she intended to give. She said dates. He said that if she had not given anything, a lie would have been recorded against her (Sunan Abi Dawud 4991). Children trust what parents say; that trust is precious.

What to say

AgeAnswer
4–7“It’s a story some families like. It isn’t real, but we can still have a little celebration when your tooth comes out!”
8+“They’re made-up characters. Some families enjoy the story. We don’t pretend, because we always tell each other the truth.”

Keep the fun, honestly

  • Lost tooth: a coin or small treat from you, openly: “Mummy is proud of your big-girl tooth!”
  • Make a dua: thank Allah for healthy teeth and ask for strong new ones.
  • A tooth chart: mark each lost tooth with the date.

Don’t spoil it for others

Teach your child: “Some friends believe it. It’s not our job to tell them. If they ask you, you can say ‘My family doesn’t do that.’”

Teacher’s tip: children who never discover their parents “tricked” them keep trusting what they’re told about Allah and Islam. Honesty in small things protects belief in big things.

Related: Teaching honesty and Christmas at school.

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