Respect for elders is a strong Islamic value, and it shows in small daily actions.
The guidance
- “He is not one of us who does not show mercy to our young and respect to our elders” (Jami’ at-Tirmidhi 1919).
- The younger should greet the older first (Sahih al-Bukhari 6231).
Habits by situation
| Situation | Habit |
|---|---|
| Arriving | Greet elders first with salam |
| At meals | Serve grandparents and guests first |
| On a bus or at an event | Offer your seat |
| Conversation | Listen, don’t interrupt, no eye-rolling |
| Out and about | Help carry bags; hold doors |
| Phone calls | Call grandparents regularly |
Respect for all elders
This includes neighbours, teachers and older people of any faith. Respect is part of good character, not only for family.
Teach respectful words
- Titles: Uncle, Aunty, Nana, Dada, Teta, Jiddo, as your family uses.
- “Please”, “thank you”, “Jazakallahu khayran”.
Model it
Children watch how you speak to your parents and in-laws. Respectful parents raise respectful children.
Teacher’s tip: give your child a “job” at family gatherings: bringing water to the elders. Children love it, and elders remember it.
Related: Respect for parents and saying salam.
